There area many ways a T can "hold" you without physically touching you. This takes time. I've been with my T for almost two years and only in the past couple of weeks have I felt "held"... safe... taken care of... like he will always be there. And believe me, that connection goes in and out, still. Anyway, my point is that my T has never touched me. Not a hug, not a pat, not even a handshake. I wouldn't trade any of those things for the experience of emotional intensity and connection. It took a long time to get there. And it is very normal to crave physical contact from your T. Sometimes I wish my T could hold me. I just try to think about how there are a lot of other ways of holding... and how he does those things.