I'm glad the dust has settled, and all the hugs. This may be of very little use, but you can read this on PSYCHIATRY on-line. 69% of Bipolar people are misdiagnosed or misdiagnosed initially, and more than 1/3 remain misdiagnosed. That some what a scary thought, and it makes you wonder who to trust. I had a different psychiatrist for 5 + yrs until I chanced to another psychiatrist. My new one, as best as I can tell, diagnosed me correctly, and the medications I am on do help keep my stable for the most part. Maybe it wouldn't hurt if you and your husband had some professional help. Maybe a group for Bipolar people. Good luck, and many happy days.