I'm glad you were able to talk to your husband about the situation. Sometimes it's hard for spouses to understand exactly what we're going through. And I'm glad your neighbor apologized and your husband also apologized. It sounds like a lot of good came from it in the end.

I'm glad he listened to you about his anger. As someone who has anger problems, I can say it is hard to deal with anger. Now, I haven't always had anger issues, but for your husband yelling may be a long time habit. He might need some help and practice to learn new ways to express anger. So, if he is willing to do anything to help with his anger that would be good. Even if it's read self-help books or online is better than nothing.

As for your diagnosis, I can't say. I have BP II and GAD as well. I was also diagnosed in 2009 and I was not medicated for a long time, and when I was on medicine it was very short term, sometimes only for a week. I recently started on Lithium and it's been a month now. I'm a lot better. I feel better. I'm not prefect, but my anger is better and I have better concentration than I did. (Still not perfect but better.) Anyway, seeing a therapist also helped me with a lot of things. Just take care of yourself.