Hey Almeda. . .

The whole point of my suggestion for the game playing is that men are not only visual creatures they are also very much "experience" creatures. You can tell them, ask them, plead with them, beg them, sing to them, write them letters, use any form of communication. . .and nine out of ten men are going to say, "What did you say again?" It's not b/c they're thick, stupid, or anything like that (though we all WONDER at times) but b/c men simply learn by doing, touching, experiencing. My whole point about the lipstick on the windshield is that, if you ever do that, he's NEVER ever forget it. But, he probably will (and has) forget that you asked him to desist calling the office. . .esepcially after the next time he sees the insurance bill.

Marriage is about give and take. I know there are people out there who will tell you it's a 50/50 thing, but I'm here to tell you it RARELY works that way. Lots of times its70/30. . .sometimes its 90/10. Most of the time it feels like we're the ones doing all the giving. Every now and then you hit that magic mark of 50/50, but it isn't a common thing hon.

Just like we talk about our T's reaching us where we are, you need to find a way to reach your husband "where he is." IF it's in a juvenile state, then go for it. Use humor, have fun with it, and at the end, say, "NOW, isn't this COMPLETELY ridiculous?" If you love him (and by love I mean more than just a feeling) then it's well worth the investment of working it out. If you don't. . .well, I think you do. If you didn't love him, you wouldn't care. And you do care. . .

So. . .that's my two cents worth. You've gotten some good advice here love. . .take the wisdom and use it and laugh at the funny stuff.