He's not always violent. He has moments where he is absolutely amazing. The times that he gets crazy with me are usually my fault. I know which buttons not to push but sometimes I push them anyway because being the "little bit**" is exhausting sometimes so I open my mouth and say what I want to say regardless of the consequences and usually during those times I fight back until we are both too worn out to continue. But I snapped like never before a week or two ago and it scared the hell out of him. He has been great since with only 2 incidents since.