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Originally Posted by pixiebob
Hi, I am new here and just wanting some points of view and advice. I have been in LDR for five years. It has been tumultuous at best. When ever there have been problems my bf always tells all and sundry about it, and there always seems to be a different new woman friend that he confides in who usually laps it up and plays mother hen. I am not generally a jelous type at all. At xmas my bf got a call from a woman he met on dating site years ago, she asked him if he was seeing anyone and he said yes. Recently we have had issues. On the weekend I went over to his. This new lady has cleaned out his bathroom, complained about the curtains I made and there was a jar of her coffee left on the bench. He says nothing going on, but my gut instinct says otherwise. Like I said I not normally the jelous type but this doing my head in
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Your gut may not be wrong here. Of course you don't want to assume entirely that you know it's right but you should find out more and keep your eyes open.
Here is my take. MOST women I know... would not go out of their way for a guy friend in ways like cleaning his place for him without having some interest in him. Especially not his bathroom. Not an enjoyable experience and unless she's a clean freak and does it for everyone, it seems like it kind of says a lot about their relationship. Again... this is my experience and opinion but at best it's not common practice for female friends IMO, so something to keep an eye on.
the idea that she left her coffee there kind of piqued my interest too. I'm not sure why but it seems to me that what's going on is more intimate than he has let on. The fact that he dabbles in having many female friends like you've said kind of puts me on edge in the first place.