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Originally Posted by tiger8
Hm well... I'm not a therapist or anything like that so sorry if I'm off with my thoughts here but I think this is a chance for you to figure out why this was so bad for you. I guess I don't know the answer myself, though.
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I have figured it out mostly. But that for me is only a mental exercise. Doesn't ease the pain much or at all. I don't know what another T can add to this, other than perhaps a few insights. I know that telling the story to a an empathetic ear could be helpful, but it would have to be a pretty special person. I am so profoundly disillusioned that the possibility seems remote.
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Originally Posted by tiger8
Yeah I'm detached, unable to connect, and I score dismissive-avoidant in attachment style tests. No it was not in therapy, I met some guy with who I somehow felt connected for a short time. That was the immediate result of something getting stirred up in my mind, something that felt like I'd long forgotten it. And yes, the coping mechanism broke down because now I'm not as comfortable with being detached and avoidant all the time. Though it still feels OK for the most part but not always.
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Have you been able to put together some sort of early childhood narrative that explains all this? So with this guy do you mean the coping mechanism broke down in a good way, or did it feel threatening? I am avoidant also.