While I agree with you Charlotte, I think a therapist should maintain their boundaries from day one. Not change the rules in the middle of the game. Mine did, and she swears I did NOTHING WRONG, she said she just got uncomfortable with what SHE was doing for ME. (I wasn't asking for it). It was hurtful, and set me back considerably. I became much more depressed and self loathing. I wasn't stable, and that just made it worse. My T has been a psychologist for something like 25 years. I've only been seeing her a year and a half. you would think with that kind of experience under her belt she would know better. She said she learned a "hard lesson." Yeah, so did I. I'm all for boundaries, but I believe they should be consistent from the start, and not changed around based on how the therapist feels. I understand if there's intense transference or something that shows up, but that was not the case with me. My T does, however, still hug. But someday that will go too I'm sure.