It's easy for parents to make mistakes. Some are just negligence, others can be malicious. I found myself confused about a lot of things. When I first went to therapy and started figuring things out, I found I had a lot of good qualities that I liked, and tried to focus on them rather than my damage. I will never be free of my depression (doing well on meds tho) but it or they(parent's mistakes) will not stop me from being a person that I like.