I am going through a separation and divorce with my spouse who left in crisis never to come back. My neighbor has been "in love with me" before my spouse left while she was still here. Now yesterday he told me i am all he thinks about. He thinks of me all the time as wanting to hug me everytime he sees me. He is jealous he says of my friends that i hang with around here. He told me instead of selling his RV he wanted him and me to ride cross country in it. I told my other two friends that for the "fourth" time I told him i was not interested. I had a sleepless night last night. After midnight i was still up and went over to his house and my other friend was there. I told her and him about i had an uneasy feeling. I left and came home and found a "letter" slipped under my door from the neighbor. And he went on and on "poetically" in it. I called my girlfriend over there and said OMG, i read the letter. The guy thought he was trying to be romantic. I told the girlfriend about his wanting us to drive cross country in his RV. And i told him about his being jealous, i thought he was a control freak. He agreed that he was. Now she says if i write letter back he could be suicidal based on what he wrote in the letter. I wrote a letter in reply to his and had her slip it under his door for he was still awake (the neighbor). My Lord! What is it with men? Do they really feel that a woman separated is a target to hit on? And my spouse is another woman, a lady actually whom i still love very much. I attract attention where i do not want it. I am dealing with my own issues with depression and etc. I said to my girlfriend, "I will not feel responsible if he wants to commit suicide. I am just an excuse if he does it." This is how much i have grown and do not feel sorry for the man. He is OBSESSED with me to the point of being uncomfortable as if he is stalking me.