I think you should probably trust your instincts, it does sound like she is not really connecting with you, I don't think a leopard usually changes their spots, I also think that a good T is hard to find, you may have to try a few out before you hit the jackpot. There is a questionnaire somewhere on this site about successful therapy, and it comments that one of the things that successful therapy usually has is that it felt right from the start. I stayed with a T for a long time, and it didn't feel right, even at the start. I thought we would be able to work it out, and gets to a place where did feel right, but we never managed that. I'm now with a T that felt right at the start.