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Oct 09, 2015, 02:18 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2015
Location: The Star of the North
Posts: 32,762
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Originally Posted by annoyedgrunt84
What should I do if I truly do suck as bad as I fear I do? I'm pretty sure I am just a hopelessly inept piece of s**t. I am so awful I don't even know how to start fixing myself , I wish I could just hide away forever.
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Hello annoyedgrunt84: Well... speaking as someone who does demonstrably suck as badly as they think they do (I'll forego the gory details)... I would just like to suggest that it's okay to be a hopeless piece of s**t. Hey... somebody's got to do it! So my thought is just be who you are... work on accepting yourself just as you are... whoever you are... what ever that is...
I am a pathetic excuse for a student of the Buddhist nun Pema Chödrön. She teaches an ancient Buddhist practice called Lojong. It translates as: Mind Training. Anyway, as a part of her teachings, Ani Pema has written that those things about ourselves we most despise are our treasure. We can use them to develop compassion for ourselves &, as a natural outgrowth, for others too.
Beyond that, I would just like to suggest that success develops from success. So, find some little things you can do that you know you can succeed at. Do those. Then find a few more things that are just a wee bit more challenging. Do those & keep building from there. Sooner or later, you'll wake up one morning & realize that you've actually become a pretty good person after all!
My best wishes to you, annoyedgrunt84. 
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