Hi Rcat... I really hate bra shopping too, but for different reasons.

Have you ever looked at "bra extenders"? They are little swatches of bra-like fabric, about 2-inches wide, with hooks/clasps... so you can hook them up to the back of your bra, and make the band bigger.

It sounds like that might work for you? You'd be able to buy a smaller size bra with the right cup size, and then make the band as big as you need (you can use multiple extenders, though it might look a little odd... it should work fine).

Just be careful with the cup sizes... since they're usually sized relative to the brand (e.g. an "A" might be 1" bigger than the band,so the same "A" cup will by physically bigger with a bigger band.)

I found my bra extenders at Kohl's. I had to order online and pickup, because even though they had them in stock at the store, nobody there could find them when I went!

Try here to see what I mean: Search Results | Kohl's

You should be able to find them at Amazon too. I'm not sure who else might carry them, they're kind of a weird little specialty item.

Good luck!