Everyone has to have 2 faces as an adult. The face only you and/or your loved one's see and the face the rest of the world sees. The only ones that don't are the ones making the rules, running the business, etc. I try and think of it as my choice to do so to keep a job and go to school which helps avoid conflict with authority figures (which was a problem for me in the past). I hope you find the answers you seek.