Oh boy, do I ever know this so ever well.

- I think first you have to decide on what your boundaries are; what does or doesn't cross the line.
- do you or would you stay within those same boundaries
Her having relationships with other men is problematic. I've been stung by relationships my partners have had on and offline myself.

Questions:

Do YOU have female friends?
Do YOU go out alone with them?
How open are your about your own relationships?
Does her going out happen frequently? Does it impact the time you spend with her?
Do you suspect these men have become her confidants?
How does she react to your telling her you don't like the behaviour?
What are her expectations of you having relationships with women?
Also how old are the each of you. I am uncomfortable with saying so, but there seems to be a different set of values and acceptable behaviour from the new generation. All the more reason to lay out your expected boundaries.

You need to sit down and put your thoughts in order, what do you consider your boundaries and what are your expectations. What is that line in the sand and what does crossing it look like?

You then need to inform her of that and she should do the same with you.

Consider how she might feel if you behaved the same.

I admit I did have a few male friends; but, I did NOT conduct these friendships in secret. My BF met them. I ensured I conducted my conversations with them in his presense (ie. I skype chatted while he was in the same room). And he met them. I made sure I was completely open with him about these friendships. Perhaps the fact they live 7hrs away made it easier though as I was not spending time with them.

Anyway, the point I am making is that I took his thoughts and possible feelings into perspective. I conducted myself to the limits I would have expected from him. And, most importantly I ensured he ramained my confidant. That no other man was privy to my inner thoughts.