Hi from another South African. I'm also almost 90 days sober. I'm with you. Relapse is not an option. I've had the in-laws here this past week and it was actually a relief not drinking as for one thing - they would have noticed just how much I was drinking and it would have been tricky trying to hide it. I feel so strong about my sobriety that I won't even have a spirit cooler (and I really wanted one this weekend) because even though I know I can have just one (my demon was hard-tack) - I want to be alcohol free. Going to pubs and restaurants is by far the hardest for me.

Strength to you.