I have a friend who is always there for people in need.

I had a spell with my eyes - ocular migraines for 3 days straight. All I could see was a kaleidoscope in my field of vision - barely anything else. It also triggered a huge migraine.

My friend calls me to check up on me and tell me she cares for me. Here was her response when I told her how sick I was feeling and terrified about living with amyloidal. "Oh, you need to hop into your car and get your butt over here to work on scrapbooking with me. Darn, the kids are calling - can I call you back?" Click.

I hang up and think to myself I'm going to have to poke that girl's ears with my knitting needles next time I talk with her. How the heck can I drive or look at PHOTOGRAPHS when I can't even see my own hand and too sick to get out of bed?

Three months later she calls to check up on me and tell me she cares. I tell her "I heard you died. You never called me back, so I figured it was true. What's up?"

She does it to me all the time. As we speak, I'm going on week two of "Can I call you right back in a few minutes?" This is after I told her my husband, my lifeline, probably has colon cancer (after his first ever colonoscopy), but we won't know for sure until September. Her response to that one was "OMG we all have to be sure to get a colonoscopy at this age - it's so important."

Silly girl. At least I know she's okay.

Should I be angry with her "lies" and "selfish" behavior?" Or should I show her a little compassion and understand that woman gets pulled in all sorts of directions?

Maybe when she gets around to calling me, I'll tell her: "You didn't hear the news? I died last week! It was a LOVELY gathering - wish you could have been there!" (she likes to laugh too)