It is most important to Understand, rather than Judge. Understanding means knowledge. Judging means ignorance. Ignorance = Stupidification, and Knowledge = Power.

They were saying those things to give you support. Maybe you feel unworthy of their support. Depression is the common cause of lack of passion and interest. Anxiety and depression go together quite well. So does anger. Even the most insignificant event can be empowering. They all add up.