I'm with Scarlett...

Since this monster of a dx primarily affects relationships, and us within those relationships... Its kind of only fair that you're honest about it.


My bf is the only one I have told, simply because at my worst it was primarily affecting him / us, which caused alot of hurt and turmoil for us both. Now that he has a name and description for the beast, he's no longer fumbling in the dark trying to appease a boogeyman. We can and do deal with it as a team.


Your bf can't help you if he doesn't know what he's supposed to be helping with.

He can be as dependable as is humanly possible, but all that leads to is him being emotionally depleted.


I bled my bf dry at one stage, and it largely played a role in us breaking up. So I know what I'm talking about.


The emotional dependency, I agree is not good. Its never a good idea to put that kind of responsibility on someone else, sure they don't mind being the rock, the anchor, the life buoy, but when you only have one source....


God forbid he does leave, or worse, keels over tomorrow...

What then?


You'll learn how to deal.

That's what.


Well first you'll freak out, lose your shyt, and eventually realize you're still breathing, and THEN you'll deal.

But deal you will.


So best option, is that you learn how to deal now, because it will create more balance in your relationship, which obviously leads to a healthier more harmonious relationship...


A big challenge for us is finding balance, here you've found the perfect starting point. Don't overlook it...


If you're planning on spending your life with him, you should tell him.


If he freaks out and runs, well then he obviously wasn't the right man for you and good riddance.


If he uses this info against you, again, he wasn't the right man for you.