Hey guys.

So, been having this problem the last year or so and it happened recently again.

I would start up an initial friendship with someone and things would seem to be going quite well. Then, in order to remain in contact with this person, we exchange contact details, to which there is no resistance, the other person willingly shares their phone number, etc. and then so do I of course.

Thereafter comes the issue. Together, we would set up some kind of arrangement to meet again, whether it's over a coffee or a lunch or whatever. Then, one of two things happen:

1. The person says they are just too busy to meet, and cannot even cut off 5 minutes they are so busy, or

2. They are really keen and we set up the meeting, and then I get all prepared and excited for it.

Both options happen about 50/50. If option two comes about, what happens is the person always cancels on me on the day or just doesn't show up only to say later that they just had something really important to do and they forgot about it. So, I say no problem, I'll let them tell me when it's most convenient for them and then they must just let me know when they want to re-schedule, to which they sound very happy and keen.

As you have probably guessed by now, that call/message never comes. I am left deflated and feeling rejected. I have no idea what went wrong during the whole exchange and all I have for a reason is that person was busy at the time.

But, what about afterwards? Are they still busy? Many people have told me that it's just "this week" specifically which is busy but the week after they will be free and then we can happily make an arrangement, to which I say sure, just let me know. Several weeks pass after that, even months, and the call never comes.

So, that can only mean I am either very forgettable as a person and don't mean much to them, or they see an opportunity to get out of the potential agony of having to be friends with me.

At the end of the day, irrespective of any reasons or whatever, the bottom line is I don't form a friendship and I remain alone.

So, this is how I get rejected. It's subtle and indirect, and people do it as if it's nothing, they just were too busy and just forgot.

It's almost like if I say nothing, then they will say nothing, and the whole thing will just die a quiet death. It's almost like they wish I will not remind them, so I don't. They said they were going to call anyways. I can see it in my mind already, they sit there hoping and praying I will not contact them, so then I don't.

So, I guess I would just like to know, did any of you guys ever experience something similar before? Could this be related to my Aspie behaviour coming through somehow in our conversations? It seems strange that I am the common denominator in each case.