The strongest chemistry with rainbows and butterflies I fell was for people who were very wrong for me. My therapist says our bodies respond to familiar feelings. Familiar is attraction to unavailable people ( for me) and that comes from having unavailable family of origin ( for me).

So not feeling intense chemistry sometimes is a sign that something unfamiliar is happening which is often a good sign. Now it's true for me. I suspect for you too as you said those men weren't obtainable. Next time you meet a nice guy just stick around and see how it goes. Don't run away if you don't have butterflies. Give it time

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