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Originally Posted by BrokenNBeautiful
We deserve to be treated like we mean something. I don't know why people act this way, either, but they do. I wish people would just come out and say it, if they don't want to get together. It is their responsibility to say so. Also, to cancel at the last minute, to act like they forgot, to not show up (ugh!), or to not even make time to get together *and follow thru*, that is very inconsiderate, IMHO. Yes, it leaves us alone. But they are doing something wrong, not us. They are not acting very committed in the friendship or very responsible. It's bad enough if they are too busy to make time, it is worse when they cancel at the last minute.
This is just my own experience; this has happened to me, too. If it's because of me, I realize that it is their responsibility to tell me if they want to be friends or not. We all deserve to be treated with respect.
Again, my own opinion and my own experience.
I hope you can make friends who can act more mature and more responsible for their issues.
Carol
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Thank you so much for your reply Carol.
I'm so sorry that you had to experience that same thing too, it's horrible, isn't it?
I once confronted one of the people who did this to me, and after stalling for two weeks, she finally agreed to speak with me. I told her I have autism/Asperger's and that I'm sorry if I come across weird. She said it was in all likelihood my being overweight and fat that pushes people away because she says it shows I don't love myself, and nobody wants to hang out with a person that doesn't love himself/herself. She says that I can't make friendships with people because they are scared I'm going to die halfway, and can't walk down the beach with them, so they prefer to only make friends with people who live a healthy life, because they don't want the person to die, but rather be with someone healthy enough to stay alive with them. That was her explanation anyway. Then she told me I should consider a vegan diet and a raw food diet because nobody likes a fat person.
I fear it is my physical appearance that is the root cause of all of this.
