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Old Oct 14, 2015, 03:32 PM
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Originally Posted by StbGuy View Post
Thank you so much for your reply Carol. I'm so sorry that you had to experience that same thing too, it's horrible, isn't it?

I once confronted one of the people who did this to me, and after stalling for two weeks, she finally agreed to speak with me. I told her I have autism/Asperger's and that I'm sorry if I come across weird. She said it was in all likelihood my being overweight and fat that pushes people away because she says it shows I don't love myself, and nobody wants to hang out with a person that doesn't love himself/herself. She says that I can't make friendships with people because they are scared I'm going to die halfway, and can't walk down the beach with them, so they prefer to only make friends with people who live a healthy life, because they don't want the person to die, but rather be with someone healthy enough to stay alive with them. That was her explanation anyway. Then she told me I should consider a vegan diet and a raw food diet because nobody likes a fat person.

I fear it is my physical appearance that is the root cause of all of this.
Oh, come on! That is so shallow. People acting like that. I think she meant well, but not everyone wants to just be around thin, together people. People have also told me that, "People don't want to be around someone wiht anxiety or not loving themselves." If someone can really be mature and handle friendships that are not so shallow, they can even help someone learn self love!

Carol
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