It's just that your coldness comes across as meanness. It scares the littles. I'm sorry that you can't feel empathy, but that's what we are here for. It's not all about you and that only you are going to save the day, it takes all of us. We just wish you would realize this and not fight everyone thinking that you are absolutely right and that its your way or no way. We need a family counselor. Thanks for sharing though, you ARE warming up!