Wants,
I worried about how I responded regarding this matter, feeling that I may have sounded judgmental, but I was just speaking from my own experience. During the time I was on the singles' sites, I tried to dismiss the lack of writing ability, bad grammar, poor punctuation, simple inability to express oneself, by telling myself, "Hey, he may be a really nice fella!"
As I said, I did meet three such men, and my conclusion is that the ability to express oneself in writing and in conversation is very important, at least to me, and sounds like it is to you also!
Love
Patty