Hey Wants2Fly,

Thanks for your thoughts on this. So far I haven't said anything to my ex. I did email the host (who had invited us) last night and told her that I would likely change my mind about coming (I'd originally replied that I would be there) because it's painful for me to see my ex with someone else. She was very understanding and also agreed not to share that with the others (luckily I hadn't responded to the whole list so people didn't know to expect me). I could go and act totally okay about everything (I'm perfectly capable of pulling that off) -- I might even be able to convince myself that I'm okay -- but I don't think I will. I think I'll just pull away.

I'm amazed you could stay friends with your ex for so long. That must have been so hard. I like to think we can all be okay about everything, but I guess that's not realistic.

Thanks,
Sidony