How timely! This happened tome this week. Sparky (CBT T) took a break from problem solving (well tried to) and tried to just be supportive.

I have a terrible time crying in therapy. Or in front of anyone in general. But one way to get me started is when T allows some silence and just looks at me sympathetically (I have mixed feelings - both "GRRR get away from me with your pity" to "hold me")

He also brings me to the brink of tears by stating the obvious which is partly infuriating and tear-inducing "You look like you need to cry but you just can't let yourself." Then he states more obvious things like "You are feeling alone" or "therapy doesn't feel safe enough because we spend so much time problem solving."

urgggh so angry but I want to cry in his arms just the same.

So I do understand!!

In your case maybe you have had bad experiences crying in front of people? Or maybe you were teased or punished for crying? Feeling safe may be the missing ingredient for you too?