SeptemberMorn -- No, I can't do that right now. There is a long history to here. Seven years when he didn't speak to my mom and I, we don't know why. His daughter -- our neice/granddaughter -- was raised to have Zero to do with us. This hurts my mother, who's 80 & has only this one grandchild, enormously.

My brother supports the man who abandoned me last spring when I got sick and lost my job -- after 15 years together, he walked out the door one day and never came back. A phone call 5 weeks later saying "his feelings had changed. Sell the house." My brother thinks it's all my fault. My bro & I saw each other last xmas for first time in 20+ years. It wound up in a fight over my X -- with me hitting my bro. And I'm not violent. I am coping with not having a job, an income, needing to find a new place to live by Nov. 1. I simply can't deal with this long, complicated, painful relationship right now. I am in so much emotional pain, the lupus is flaring, I can feel the nodes swelling on my neck, usually a sign of low white blood cell count, fatigue, I can hardly move.