Hello continuously blue: Yes, I have some sense of this. Neither my wife, nor I, are natural "sharers". So, in that sense, I guess we're a bit different than the two of you. However, my mental health problems have, in recent years, forced me to open up more than I used to. And in fact, as a result, I shared some stuff that I now wish I had kept hidden. Divulging it accomplished nothing & it left me feeling exposed & foolish. But I would certainly agree that a relationship is healthier when people involved are able to share. My best wishes to you...