I read your post Steve223. First, I'd like to just mention that I'm an older person... older than your parents no doubt... probably more your grandparents' ages. So my perspective is going to be different than what you might hear from someone closer to your own age. That said, my perspective is that your parents are really bending over backward to try to do whatever they can for you. Are they conflicted? Sure... I would guess they are. I'm sure they would have loved to have had a child who had no problems at all & who grew up to be successful at whatever s/he wanted to be. This is what my parents would have liked. But, instead, what they got... was me... I'm sure nothing turned out the way they had envisioned. Human relationships, especially family relationships, are messy affairs. And few of us are expert at handling them well all the time. I know that, as old as I am, try as I might, I just keep making the same mistakes over-&-over.

You mention that you have kind-of agreed to go back to counseling. I think this would be a good step. The concerns you have right now need to be talked over in-depth with an experienced, objective person. It might also be beneficial if, at some point, you & your parents could participate in some family counseling. As far as the house goes, I must say that I'm not sure. I think this is something to work out in counseling. It is true, I think, that family members can become too intertwined. Perhaps at this point, given that you're now 23, it's time to start putting a bit more space between yourself & your parents if that is doable given your financial & mental health situations. But, here again, my perspective would be that this is all good stuff to work through in counseling. I wish you well...