I have seen over time that my opinion is not wanted here and that is fine. There are two reasons why I post here.

One to vent, complain and get things off my chest.

Second is to let anyone interested see that if they do not practice DBT skills and work hard in therapy and skills class during their younger years when DBT is the most effective you could be end up being "dancinglady".

I was not given the wonderful opportunities you have at this time. DBT came to late to make any significant change in my life as far as work, relationships, earning money, getting promoted, etc. I will be 65 years old in 8 days. I wish I had had DBT in my early years so that I would not have made the mistakes that are irreversible. Some things you can not get back, just remember that.

In my early years, BPD was a death sentence. We were told we were untreatable, locked in psychiatric wards for months even years, subjected to untested procedures. We were told that we were not supposed to live in the real world, we were not allowed into the 'mental health psychosocial rehab" because we would damage other mental health clients. Yes damage. We were damaged and beyond repair. You were lucky if you got a clinician to even see you in therapy. We got to pick from the bad therapists because they were the only ones that would treat us. They needed someone to fill the open spots so we became IT. The public mental health system gave us bandaids told us not to call. We were banned from crisis lines and told we were "acting out two year olds" and to just grow up and for all purposes get away from them.
Just remember I was "you". My time is up. Good luck.