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I've known for what feels like forever that I didn't want kids. I've never understood the need some people have to be parents. That's not a criticism, just a statement that I don't understand it.
I babysat two young boys through my last couple of years of high school and the first couple of years of college. I was with them every week night. Their mom worked a day job, then a second job at night. I saw more of the boys than she did. I kind of felt like I raised them.
I had absolutely no interest in the 24/7/365 part of being a parent. It's got to be the biggest responsibility there is in life. I wasn't interested in signing on for that. Add to that that I was terrified I'd pass along the abuse I received as a kid. I used to think "the buck stops here" when it came to that. Then add that my husband was a giant irresponsible child himself. I would have ended up caring for him and the kids.
To the OP. You mentioned your husband came home from visiting with his nieces and nephews and said he wanted kids. Does he really want kids or does he like the idea of kids? You mentioned something about "legacy". He can create a legacy without bringing a child into the world.
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