Inkblot, have you considered taking a self-defense for women course? Some police stations offer them free to the public. It's important that we know how to do more than "shy away" from men who make inappropriate gestures. A flat out "get the hell away from me" would have made it clear to him where the boundary lies. I also have a tough time with this; I tend to be 'nice', mostly out of fear of hurting feelings, second-guessing my understanding of their intentions, or fear of their anger. However, the second-guessing is the RED FLAG that I need to take action. I always know when I'm second-guessing myself, and that means I should listen to my gut. You obviously have some gut instincts and are second-guessing yourself, too, but try to pay attention when that happens.

A truly "nice guy" will understand if you overreact to an unwanted come-on. A "nice guy" wouldn't WANT a woman to feel uncomfortable. This guy seems to prey on your discomfort, and that's a SURE sign that he's not nice. So listen to your gut and maybe find a new internet cafe.

Good luck -- am hoping for the best for you,
LMo