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I knew I did not want children... mostly because it was not a happy young life for me. I could go on and on but my fear was having a little one and the worry of being able to do a good job taking care of the child and myself. I never wanted a child to feel that pain as I did from parents that did not take good care of us. Also mental illness in the family and addictions - was not taking a chance.
Yes, I know a husband "should" be there but it really is mostly the woman who does the work.
I say if you and your husband want children... get counseled 1st and draw up a contract... I'm serious. Everyone needs to be in reality about this decision. The children are the ones that will suffer the most. Please be darn sure.
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“A person is also mentally weak by the quantity of time he spends to sneak peek into others lives to devalue and degrade the quality of his own life.” Anuj Somany
“Psychotherapy works by going deep into the brain and its neurons and changing their structure by turning on the right genes. The talking cure works by "talking to neurons," and that an effective psychotherapist or psychoanalyst is a "microsurgeon of the mind" who helps patients make needed alterations in neuronal networks.” Norman Doidge
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