I am allowed to text current t, but it's still a bit weird to me. I worry a lot about boundaries and being a bother, so she has reiterated that she is ok with it. I think one big thing with out of hours contact is not only knowing t's boundaries, but understanding your own as well. If it makes you feel uncomfortable to text t, then maybe another conversation (or several more) would be good to have around it.

My t seems to allow texting with a few of her clients. She offered a few "levels" of "ok" texting, but I wasn't comfortable with the openness of it. We talked, and agreed where the boundaries stand with it. One level is simply checking to see if t is "still there". It helps with my panic around thinking t hates me, or that she resents having me as a client. While this one really bothered me at first, it's the level I'm most comfortable with. I'm also allowed to text if I need help working through things (and my usual coping isn't working so well). I think I've only done this one or twice. It helped being reminded in the moment that someone else is aware I'm struggling,and there if I need her. I'm not sure I would be comfortable trying to work through too much by text though. I tend to read into things or misread the intent, which causes a lot of anxiety for me. If there's anything requiring more than a few exchanges, I'd be more apt to call. T is generally open about letting me know if there's a time she will not be available, or a more inconvenient time to try to reach out. I think that heLPS a lot. It's certainly always an open dialogue.