My therapist is CBT oriented, and I have some of the same experiences. I don't have transference per se, but there are some things about my T (or her approach) that remind me of my mom. Mostly it's the emphasis on solutions, rather than understanding and support.

The whole "challenging" the thoughts bit can be very invalidating. Sometimes you just want to be heard and understood. I realized that sometimes my T thinks I'm talking about thoughts, when I'm actually talking about feelings. I'm not very good at talking about how I feel. When I fail to get something across one week, it helps for me to write it out and read it to her the next week.

I also have the touch issue, but I don't know what to do about that. However I decided that I shouldn't look to her for touch. We've talked about my need for it somewhat, but not touch from her. I think it's better that way for me.