He just brought it up again last night. I keep hoping it will just go away, which I think answers the question for me of whether or not I want kids.

He is my boyfriend of 8 years, not my husband. He does not want to get married, he just wants kids. I told him the last time we talked about this that I would not have kids without being married, but he still does not want to get married. My friends don't understand why I want to get married first (and I am completely fine not having kids and not getting married). He doesn't understand and I don't understand why he won't just get married if having kids is so important to him.

I think he wants to break up if we don't have kids. I asked and he told me not to borrow trouble instead of answering.

So I still have no idea what to do but am leaning towards no at this point, thinking entirely with my head. As a guy, I would have kids. As a woman, it's just too risky, imo, especially with someone who is not willing to compromise about the marriage issue.