Hi Virginnia, I get what you're saying as I experienced this too. You're right, you DO need to feel heard and validated. That's so important. CBT can be invalidating in some ways - it's a kind of awful side effect that CBT therapists often seem quite unaware of! My T (with whom I had very strong long-term painful maternal transference issues) told me that she was not, as a cbt therapist, trained to deal with transference. That's probably the problem for you too. There is a right way and a wrong way to deal with it.

It sounds like as far as getting your needs met (so you can grow and move on with your life which is the aim of therapy) you need a T who uses a different approach - so you might need to find someone else. I know the problem will be how to leave your current T when you are so "attached". If you can leave though a new T trained and experienced in dealing with transference would help you with those painful feelings and help you move on. Once transference feelings have got a hold on you there isn't really an easy solution - but it will ease in time. Our instincts are often good at telling us what we should so - I tried to go by that for myself.
Take care.