BPD never exists on it's own. It's often accompanied with depression, anxiety, PTSD, and sometimes BP, ED, and addictions. So just because you learn to cope with the BPD, doesn't mean you're in a place to get a job or go back to school.

For me, my dream job would be an architect. But that's not going to happen any time soon. For one, my anxiety and fears are still severe. And two, I'm working towards a bigger dream: to be a mom. My fiance and I are somewhat traditional. We believe that the man goes out and works to support his family while the woman stays home and takes care of the house and children (furry babies too!).

That doesn't mean I'm not progressing. I lost my T 7 months ago. She abandoned me. It sent me into crisis. I have been working hard to cope with my loss. My meds had to be readjusted, I releapsed with cutting, I had to find a new T and try to let her in. I had to fight the depression, the thoughts, the lack of energy. I have come a long way. I even found myself a DBT process group. I'm no longer crying over ex-T. I have even filed a grievance against her with the board of psychology.

Maybe you don't consider this progress, but for me it is. Having a job or getting your education isn't what life is all about. Living to your fullest, coping with life...that's what life is about. I think most of us are doing the best we can. I don't think anyone is sitting there enjoying their mental health issues.

But maybe you're in a different place then the people here on PC. I have stayed away from this forum for sometime because I didn't feel like I fit in. Sure I have the same issues as everyone else. I just found that the majority were wallowing in their misery. But that's okay. That's where they're at. I can't judge them. I was there at one point. You can't snap your fingers and poof you're ready for the world. And while DBT helps many, it doesn't help all. Like for me, I need a T to help encourage me and push me along the way. I need my T to be there, listen, and guide me.

I think I'm rambling. Don't get wrapped up in guiding others. It's not your job. Instead, just talk about your path. Let people relate or ask questions. But in the end, we each make our own decisions. You can't force people to get better. And they will within their own time.