i just wanted to add something here, my sister is so mean to me about everything i say and do and she has been this way for all my life. i recently got in touch with a relative who wonders why she is this way with me. i don't have any idea why she feels like he can control me in such a way, i totally ignored her and she still is this way even after we reconnected and now i know for sure she will never be my friend and that is better than having to deal with her. i love my sister and tried so many times to get along with her but she just is the same even after getting back to her so i figure it's totally over. it makes me feel so bad i could have had a good relationship with her but i guess it's not in the cards. be yourself and let this person go is what i advise from my experience. good luck