One of my favorite authors is Parker J. Palmer. There is a passage in his book A Hidden Wholeness: The Journey Toward an Undivided Life where he writes about how there are some hurts so deep, so profound that anything one might say only adds to the pain. In such cases the best we can do is to stand silently at the periphery of a person's solitude and offer quiet support. I am standing at the periphery of your solitude, ciderguy...