It's easy to sift through the drawers of others, but it takes a really strong heart to have the nerve to dig through the baggage we've carried with us our whole lives.

Maybe she doesn't want to lean on you now because she wants to prove to you she's a big girl and can clean her own room without supervision.

By all means, be sure she has your number in case she needs your help on how to make a bed - or wants to show off how sparkling clean she made her room.

My friend may sound like a cold-hearted air head, but I KNOW she would be there if I truly needed her. Without hesitation, she stood by my side and coached me when my son was born - 19 hours of hard labor and only ONCE took a break for a cigarette. She also almost allowed me to bite on her arm to keep from screaming, but changed her mind at the last minute and shook her finger at me saying "No biting." She'd do it again in a heartbeat.

We all heal on our own time - it can't be forced.