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Old Oct 17, 2015, 06:28 PM
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Originally Posted by healingme4me View Post
I relate to feeling like the separation occurs within a marriage well before divorce. I don't relate to having 'no feelings' since I'm the one that filed. For my own situation in divorce, love just wasn't enough. It was a tough decision, for me to make. There were children involved. His behavior towards me was heartbreaking during marriage. It's taken a heck of a lot of therapy and support groups, mostly online but sometimes in person to come to terms with what I went through.
I can relate to the idea of when it's over, it's over. However, when there are kids involved, it's not that simple.
I can relate to growing apart, and suddenly realizing there wasn't a solid foundation to begin with. As mentioned about interests not being the same.
You caught me in a brain freeze error ! I'm the one who filed also and I was tremendously hurt because I was " forced " into it. I didn't want to but there was no love anymore and she didn't want to end it herself because she just wanted to keep using me and hurting me.
As far as the children go you are absolutely correct. It complicates matters tremendously. Fortunately my two children were older and not living at home.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that some of us hurt and then some of us REALLY hurt , if you know what I mean.
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