((((((((( gostryter ))))))))))))

Most parents don't set out to emotionally abuse their children. They have problems themselves. Maybe you have felt responsible for protecting your mom and keeping her secrets. That is often part of it too. Dysfunctional families teach us that we have to not talk about what happens, keep our feelings to ourselves (or change what we feel to match what they say we should feel), and always put ourselves last and take care of others, etc. These are the things that maintain the pattern. If you want to break the pattern, you have to admit what happened and call it what it is. It's not betrayal, even though it feels like it. It is okay to heal. You are not obligated to keep maintaining dysfunctional patterns.

TC,
Rap