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Originally Posted by Alone & confused
I hate to even say this but I've known quite a few addicts. And I've never known ANYONE who could maintain sobriety while having a counterpart who is also an addict unless BOTH of them were trying to get clean!  It's really hard to kick a habit when you're faced with the temptation around your peers. Is he trying to quit too? |
Hi Alone & Confused,
Thanks for your response. The answer is unfortunately "No", my boyfriend is not trying to get clean. I have started going to NA meetings and every time I go to a meeting he bad mouths them and says "I'll get clean on my own, I don't need a stupid meeting." We fight about it all the time, then when I tell him he isn't even trying to get clean and I am his reply is "I don't want to talk about it, I don't need this negativity." I tell him I don't think he really wants to and he refuses to discuss it. The prognosis for the relationship is not looking good, I can't continue to live like this for me and my family. Unfortunately, he doesn't have any family. All I can do is work on me, I can't change him. I wish I could, but I can't.