I honestly don't even know what to say, except that I would not be putting up with such bullshyt.

Doesn't sound much like emotional abuse to me, but I definitely would not rule out mental abuse.

The refusing to take responsibility and placing blame on you, that has definitely got to change.


You can't have an equal partnership if one is in the wrong by default because the other is too immature to accept accountability.


Expecting you to mind read and assume his next move like you two are playing some type of chess?

No, just no, irrational is too nice a word.


The not respecting your no or no thank yous, that would tick me off to no end. Because its a major red flag... Not only is it a huge sign of disrespect (I would personally throw a chair at a man who acted as if i didn't know what I wanted, as if I'm a complete idiot) but tomorrow he might make bigger decisions for you and then what?


I know this is a drastic example, but say he asks you if you'd rather quit your job and start a family... You say no, you're not ready, or you'd like to be a working mom.... He then proceeds to send your resignation via email on your behalf because you don't really know what you want...


See where I'm going with this?


That is an open door to some ugly places right there.


Also, the hurting himself and blaming you, classic emotional blackmail. You are NEVER responsible for his actions. Don't fall for such cheap tricks, its usually attention seeking or a way to manipulate you into "submission"...


Ok, after all this typing, I think I'm trying to say your relationship is full of manipulation and lacks healthy boundaries.


Boundaries is what you guys need and a therapist's office would be a good place to find them.


He's probably not a fan of that idea because he's well aware of how much he's manipulating you and obviously does not want to lose that hold over you.