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Originally Posted by justmeandmyhead
I guess I look for scientific phrases to define things as I find it comforting. Your right most people are either nosy or ignorant but they largely don't actually care.
I feel out of control when I don't know what is happening to me so I look for ways to define myself. I'm too obsessed with labels as I've had bad ones put on me before. Maybe I need to just go with how I feel and stop worrying what people think so much
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I used to have an unhealthy way of viewing labels also. It's something that isn't a problem for me anymore, but man it was rough when it was so I'm nothing but empathetic about your struggle with it. I used to HAVE to be able to define things, have a framework, have something concrete to point to to say "THIS is what it is because of *insert label*." But over time I've realized that while labels have their uses, human beings are complex and nobody fits neatly into any label be it good or bad or anywhere in between.
I've had bad experiences with labels too, gotten the wrong ones many times and it was damaging to me.
I think the last line in your post is right on point, just go with how you feel and try not to worry what others think so much. When I stopped caring what people think of me(and it's something I'm still working on), I felt so much more free and at peace.
