Sorry to be so blunt, but are you having sex with your husband?


I imagine either no, or very infrequently if you're feeling as badly about your looks as you've described.


He may have resorted to porn in order to take care of himself, so as not to put pressure on you to be in the mood for sex.


Look, some women (like myself) have no problem with porn, others, believe its wrong or a bad reflection on them. To each their own, I don't think that's the issue here at all.


What I'm saying is, have you actually sat down and spoken to him, and actually heard his side?


Just trying to offer a different perspective, because your hubby doesn't sound particularly assholian.