The way T has explained it to me is that you 'learn' how to have better relationships in therapy.

Then we are to go out have those better relationships with others in our life or make the necessary changes we need to make to feel better.

And as I have learned, there are varying time frames as to when this occurs and is really client specific. For some, weeks is enough time and for others, like me, it may take a few years.

Tulips yes real life is what put us in therapy, however, in some ways decisions we make, mental/medical conditions we have and outside circumstances also play a role.

I'll use myself as an example. I am learning so much about how I relate to men by working with my T. This relational problem has led to many bad decisions on my part in picking the wrong men for me. What I thought was love, wasn't love at all. I was searching for unmet needs from my first male relationship, my dad.

On top of this, there are other issues that further complicate my above issue. Those other issues are what I am still trying to work out. But yes, once I do then real life should be so much better.

I should say though that the work comes from us along with our T's. They can't do it for us, and sometimes we wish they could