I have had a realtionship like this, and it IS abuse.
To buy you something you don't want because he decides 'I knew you wanted it really' is projection, he is unaware of you and your opinions, only his own.
To assume you automatically *know* what is going on in his head is 'magical thinking'
Your husband sounds like he has a narcissistic personality or at least narc traits, he does not see you as a separate entity but rather as an extentsion of himself hence the lack of bounderies, the assumtion he knows what you want more than you do, and the magical thinking (of course you know how he feels!)
You might need to get out of this realationship, narcs emotionally drain you dry.

But since they are the emotional equivalent of a 5 year-old, they completely disown the parts of themselves that tarnish their façade and accuse you of the exact things they are guilty of doing. Did you ever notice how they will accuse the most generous person of being selfish? The most truthful person is labeled a liar. Their loyal and faithful partner is accused of being unfaithful? If you pay close attention, the narcissist’s projections are really confessions that reveal insight into what the narcissist’s is actually guilty of and believes about himself/herself.

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